DEAR DR CATH,

I don't know what to do. I have been married for six years and have two lovely children. My husband is a great dad, works hard and always comes home on time.

One night last week I was tired so went to bed early. I woke up later and went downstairs to get a drink of water to discover my husband watching porn on our home computer. I was shocked and disgusted. Now I don't know what to do.

DR CATH REPLIES,

Don't panic. He may not love anyone but you and he may have no desire to stray. But it's unrealistic to expect he won't get a thrill from looking.

Be honest...have you not let your eyes drift to a sexy man on the street, wondering what it would be like to see him naked?

I know this isn't as blatant as gazing at porn but it does show that a strong, loving relationship doesn't stop a man or woman fantasising a little, and these fantasies don't diminish the love a person holds for their partner.

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